While it’s important to have the conversation we need to have with our reluctant colleague or significant other, major shifts can happen without approaching another person. How? When we first have conversations with our own self. I call it ‘checking in’. These are the conversations that occur quietly in our own head and heart when …
Sometimes it’s good to have a conversation with yourself! Read More »
A genuine conversation is above all a two-way street, whether it’s brainstorming exciting ideas, or clearing the air. To accomplish that, I make it a habit to periodically check in with the other person, ensuring they’re actively engaged in the exchange. Here are 5 clues you may have inadvertently closed one lane: They’re looking at …
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It’s hard to resist giving advice isn’t it? We all do it whether it’s solicited… or not. When we feel sympathy or frustration with another person’s dilemma it pulls at our heartstrings. Of course, the human thing to do is to try to solve their dilemma for them. We try to advise rather than coach. …
Advising vs. Coaching: Need A Solution? Stop Giving Advice. Read More »
She looked at me quizzically and said: “What a breath of fresh air! The conversation we just had, you know.” “What did you like about the conversation?” I asked. “Well, we don’t usually speak like this at work. Straight talk about what we really think and even feel about decisions. Today we got to speak …
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At lunchtime one day, I bumped into two managers who are also friends of mine. An impromptu conversation started with one of them about her longstanding intention of writing a book. Although this was a goal near and dear to her heart, she hadn’t been able to start. I asked her: “What is in the …
How To Ask Better Questions by Switching From ‘Why’ To ‘What’ (And Why it’s Important) Read More »
There’s no denying that genuine conversations are hard to have. But they just don’t get easier when you keep putting them off. In fact, they get harder and harder by the minute. We all have conversations that should be happening in our life, but aren’t. Sometimes we realize it and sometimes we don’t. Here are 12 signs …
12 Signs that it’s More Than Time to Have A Genuine Conversation Read More »
We know that difficult conversation; the one that never actually happens, but desperately needs to. The conversation we needed to have but didn’t, about what each of us want from an upcoming holiday, a project, or a relationship. In fact, hard conversations actually become harder over time. That’s because everything we’ve stayed silent about hangs …
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Is it the pace we set for ourselves that provides precious little time to think? Maybe it’s the pressure we feel to say “yes” to every opportunity that comes our way. After all, isn’t it great to be needed? A good friend of mine was recently facing this dilemma. A gifted professional, she was berating …
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