“I’m just telling you this for your own good”: The danger of making feedback personal Is the feedback you receive or give, thought out or off the cuff? Is it supportive, or does it cut you or someone else down? A client was sharing with me the death by a thousand cuts she was experiencing …
Genuine Conversation
Resistance is Futile. Or is it? Yet, we resist with all our might. We won’t sell the house, despite the financial burden. We still don’t exercise, in spite of the health scare. We refuse to consult this team member who now sits at a higher level. There have been plenty times in my life …
Let’s face it: most of us dislike conflict. We’d rather be uncomfortable than risk making someone else uncomfortable. Often, we even choose to remain silent when we’re faced with minor irritants and there’s really no threat of serious conflict. As I wrote last week, this fear often leads people to make nice with people who …
Where Did Your Voice Go? And How to Get it Back! Read More »
I often hear individuals in the workplace say: “It’s just the way he is”, or “That’s just the way she talks …it’s really no big deal.” Better to ignore the raised voice, the dismissive tone, the undercurrent of blame, the swearing, the silent treatment, right? “I mean what else can I do?” The bad behaviours …
[one_fourth_last]So I texted my sister the other day, asking her for feedback on an old family recipe I was dabbling with. I sent her a sample and wanted to know what she thought. She liked it very much. She also added that I could add more hot pepper to one of the samples, to clearly …
When are texts substitutes for a human-to-human conversation? Read More »
In all honesty, the word ‘failure’ is a harsh one. Beyond its definition, it implies incompetence, defeat, collapse, negligence – just to list a few more harsh words. You have to ask yourself: ‘Failure’ from whose point of view? Mine or someone else’s? You call it ‘failure’ when: Things don’t go as planned You don’t …
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde There’s an empty lot near my house owned by a man – whom we will call ‘Anthony’. It’s a very valuable plot of city land and he – Anthony – stubbornly refuses to sell the lot to anyone. Anthony drives by in his battered old …
It was one of those mornings. I had to get up at an inhumane hour to get ready for an early meeting downtown, get dressed, gulp one day old coffee, fight traffic, find parking… You get the picture. I got there on time, thank goodness. Just as I was entering the building, I received a …
How I Was Re-Schooled In The Art Of Conversation Read More »
The best games are the ones where the suspense lasts until the final minutes. The excitement and anticipation on the field and in the stands permeate the atmosphere. Each player is giving their best, keeping the ball in play as long as possible…Five, 4, 3, 2, 1 … the ending whistle blows. After disputing such …
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Can’t live with them, can’t live without them! Teams have meetings and it’s a fact of daily work life. Bringing team members up to date so they can plan their work and establish priorities is important and necessary…so is making sure you’re having a real conversation. I promise this post won’t be about how to hold …
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