Over the years I’ve developed the habit of celebrating my “small” wins. It’s usually something quick and silly like a happy dance in the elevator after a successful meeting (don’t worry, I wait until I’m alone). Other times, it’s a yelp and a happy dance when after working on a complicated proposal night and day, …
A month ago, I was speaking with a beautiful soul about her critical health challenges. My friend strongly believes in the body/mind/spirit connection and was discouraged about the serious impact of recent professional and personal setbacks on her health and well-being. More than most, she is conscious of the power of her thoughts, but she …
They come in small numbers at first. Then they multiply and flash the words “Error Message” in your head at an increasing pace. I’m referring to the sure signs that you’re in the wrong job, the wrong field, or the wrong life direction. Simply put, you’re going against your grain, taking a detour down the …
It was predictable. During the first day facilitating a meeting with a group of leaders gathered around issues of change and transformation for their sectors, we spent most of it presenting and analyzing the “thing”. Basically the “thing” refers to processes, the how to’s of getting from point A to B, intensely discussing all sorts …
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I remember a lunchtime many decades ago when I decided to help a man with a white cane cross the street, insisting that I would get him safely to the other side. He was resisting. I was puzzled. Here I was lending a helping hand at a busy intersection during the lunch hour rush, and …
We always know when our personal boundaries have been crossed, so why don’t we do something about it? We hold our breath, lower our eyes in embarrassment at the sarcastic put down. We pretend we don’t care about the not so playful shove, the raised voice, or rolling eyes. They say a behaviour allowed is …
This coaching technique doesn’t work for dealing with all my problems, yet I’ve found it useful in reaching a more resourceful state when conflicts threaten my peace of mind. Many of my clients also experience a big wave of relief this way, breaking the hold a challenging situation has on them. Let’s call it “What …
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A fiery soul with eyes that speak volumes took me aside at a large session I was facilitating recently. She shared with me her history of overcoming trauma and abuse and her personal mission to inspire others, and above all to speak up. She told me she really appreciated my work. For that reason, …
In all honesty, the word ‘failure’ is a harsh one. Beyond its definition, it implies incompetence, defeat, collapse, negligence – just to list a few more harsh words. You have to ask yourself: ‘Failure’ from whose point of view? Mine or someone else’s? You call it ‘failure’ when: Things don’t go as planned You don’t …
Please excuse my tongue in cheek question, but recently I was listening in on a conference call and I found myself getting increasingly irritated with the convenor. He went on, and on, and on…..I had to talk myself out of intervening since I was just there to listen. I also had to admit to myself …