There are a few names coaches give to this human phenomenon: the gremlins, the internal saboteurs, negative chatter. I affectionately call it the backseat driver. Have you experienced the frustration of a backseat driver? They may be well meaning, but…. “I think you should turn left here. Why didn’t you turn left?” “You’re driving too …
Note to your backseat driver: “I’ll handle the driving, thank you!” Read More »
Turning an ending into a new beginning may just need a first decision, followed by a first step. There may come a time (and there usually is), when you realize that the pain of maintaining your professional status quo is greater than the potential pain of changing paths. Let’s call reaching the end of the …
Have you reached the end of the road, or is it the beginning of a new one? Read More »
Rooms across the country were energized with creative debates on ways forward. Women and men from different backgrounds and experiences were actively contributing to discussions on how to put a stop to gender-based violence. Over the summer, I had the honour of moderating several sessions in support of my federal client’s search for an inclusive, cross-country …
[one_fourth_last]So I texted my sister the other day, asking her for feedback on an old family recipe I was dabbling with. I sent her a sample and wanted to know what she thought. She liked it very much. She also added that I could add more hot pepper to one of the samples, to clearly …
When are texts substitutes for a human-to-human conversation? Read More »
Over the years I’ve developed the habit of celebrating my “small” wins. It’s usually something quick and silly like a happy dance in the elevator after a successful meeting (don’t worry, I wait until I’m alone). Other times, it’s a yelp and a happy dance when after working on a complicated proposal night and day, …
A month ago, I was speaking with a beautiful soul about her critical health challenges. My friend strongly believes in the body/mind/spirit connection and was discouraged about the serious impact of recent professional and personal setbacks on her health and well-being. More than most, she is conscious of the power of her thoughts, but she …
They come in small numbers at first. Then they multiply and flash the words “Error Message” in your head at an increasing pace. I’m referring to the sure signs that you’re in the wrong job, the wrong field, or the wrong life direction. Simply put, you’re going against your grain, taking a detour down the …
We always know when our personal boundaries have been crossed, so why don’t we do something about it? We hold our breath, lower our eyes in embarrassment at the sarcastic put down. We pretend we don’t care about the not so playful shove, the raised voice, or rolling eyes. They say a behaviour allowed is …
This coaching technique doesn’t work for dealing with all my problems, yet I’ve found it useful in reaching a more resourceful state when conflicts threaten my peace of mind. Many of my clients also experience a big wave of relief this way, breaking the hold a challenging situation has on them. Let’s call it “What …
Dealing With Problems By Shrinking Them Down With “What if” Read More »
A fiery soul with eyes that speak volumes took me aside at a large session I was facilitating recently. She shared with me her history of overcoming trauma and abuse and her personal mission to inspire others, and above all to speak up. She told me she really appreciated my work. For that reason, …