Can We Use the Mirror Effect to Become Beacons? It’s become a common understanding that if someone, or their behaviour, is unreasonably irritating to you, you’re experiencing what’s known as the Mirror Effect. This is the idea that we are disproportionately irritated by the behaviours in others that we most dislike in ourselves. …
Genuine Conversation
I was having separate conversations with two young individuals about the need to fight for something that is important for one’s well-being and integrity. Both were feeling cornered, under-valued, frustrated by their lack of progress in their respective fields. One was in a manufacturing environment and the other in a large administration. The first one …
An assistant quietly walks over to his boss whispering a message in her ear. The leader abruptly gets up and leaves the room in the middle of a crucial discussion. A cell phone rings. For whatever reason, it needs to be answered while an employee is courageously bringing up issues vital to the team’s success. …
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With disbelief, I read and re-read something I wrote way too fast, frustration peppering my words, the ‘send’ key pressed too soon. I wasn’t proud of that e-mail, knowing I could have used a different turn of phrase, given the benefit of the doubt, rather than having jumped to conclusions. Not good. What made it worse …
I hear it often from clients: “Is there anything you can do to stop the complaining and venting that consumes so much energy at the team meetings?” “Can’t people just move on?” I totally understand the frustration leaders have with their team in times of change. As a coach, I also know that folks have to …
Managers often talk to me about that certain person on the team; the one who keeps holding up the process. The typical scenario goes something like this: Manager: We have regular meetings in my office. Every time I bring up the report he hasn’t finished, his answer usually is: “I’m working on it. A bit …
When An Individual Holds Up The Process: 3 Parts to Breaking Down the Problem Read More »
As the old adage goes: The only silly question is the one you don’t ask. Why? Because your question is also percolating in someone else’s head, and by voicing it not only are you expressing your concern, but you are encouraging someone else to express theirs. With this in mind, I wanted to share with you …
Q and A: How Do You Have A Genuine Conversation When You Don’t Feel Safe? Read More »
I remember my relief when hearing the words “Good Enough!” from a boss a long time ago. Previous bosses were often asking for more, getting upset when the product was delivered with minor errors, even when an impossible deadline was met. Ahhhhh! To err is human. What a relief to hear a leader acknowledge a …
“It’s Good Enough”: A Valuable Lesson In Leadership Read More »