I had a tantrum the other day. It wasn’t terribly long, but it was a surprisingly intense meltdown. The person at whom I was raging said, afterward, “Oh, so you’re actually human!” Yes, I’m human, but this behaviour isn’t like me at all! I am generally level and calm around others and no, I don’t …
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Recently I went to the bank with an envelope of rent money from a tenant. I wasn’t anticipating anything much from the errand other than ticking an item off my to-do list. But when I got to the teller and began to pull bills from the envelope, I realized I had more money than I’d …
Can We Use the Mirror Effect to Become Beacons? It’s become a common understanding that if someone, or their behaviour, is unreasonably irritating to you, you’re experiencing what’s known as the Mirror Effect. This is the idea that we are disproportionately irritated by the behaviours in others that we most dislike in ourselves. …
I was having separate conversations with two young individuals about the need to fight for something that is important for one’s well-being and integrity. Both were feeling cornered, under-valued, frustrated by their lack of progress in their respective fields. One was in a manufacturing environment and the other in a large administration. The first one …
Many of us have alarm systems in our homes or offices. When there is a security breach, the response is immediate and loud! When I first had the system put into my home, I would forget this invisible barrier and open the door or window wide to let in the fresh air, only to be …
I got a call recently that shook me up a bit and made me understand what many of my clients go through. I must admit that I’m not that easily shaken. For two decades, I’ve worked across the country and in many places abroad with fascinating people in circumstances I would never have imagined possible. …
An assistant quietly walks over to his boss whispering a message in her ear. The leader abruptly gets up and leaves the room in the middle of a crucial discussion. A cell phone rings. For whatever reason, it needs to be answered while an employee is courageously bringing up issues vital to the team’s success. …
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With disbelief, I read and re-read something I wrote way too fast, frustration peppering my words, the ‘send’ key pressed too soon. I wasn’t proud of that e-mail, knowing I could have used a different turn of phrase, given the benefit of the doubt, rather than having jumped to conclusions. Not good. What made it worse …